About Me

Coaching vs. Therapy: Understanding the Difference

While both coaching and therapy are powerful tools for personal growth, they serve distinct purposes. As a dating and relationship coach with a master’s degree, I focus on helping individuals and couples achieve specific goals in their relationships, build healthy communication habits, and navigate challenges in a proactive, solution-oriented way. Coaching is forward-focused, empowering clients to take actionable steps toward the love life they desire.

In contrast, therapy is often geared toward addressing deeper emotional or psychological issues, and it is typically provided by licensed professionals like psychologists or counselors. Therapy may explore past traumas, mental health concerns, and unresolved emotional challenges, aiming for healing and understanding.

As your coach, we can discuss those things but I do not diagnose or prescribe. I help you clarify your relationship goals, overcome obstacles, and develop strategies for lasting change, all while maintaining a supportive and non-judgmental space for growth.

At 25, I was angry, closed off, and disillusioned by most things, including love. 

I was insecure, and desperately trying to keep it together but perpetually missing the mark.

I also had a sharp wit. I was smart, intuitive, sensitive, I was the life of the party, and I thought I was very hot shit. 

Basically, I was impossible to reach.

Intimacy felt threatening, and being alone was the only way I knew how to feel safe. 

I needed to do what turned out to be the tedious and sometimes boring work of reparenting my inner little Lucy. I had to become a safe person for myself. That took dropping my pride, asking for help, and being willing to connect vulnerably with others. 

Once I committed to experimenting with my own magnetism, changes started happening quickly and that made doing the inner work feel fun. 

I originally connected with my emotions through creativity. Writing music, painting, and trying to introduce play back into my life forced me to confront an overwhelming need for control. 

I had to stop condemning myself and begin offering myself space to be the multi-dimensional, dramatic, powerful woman that I am.

Now, I strive to give myself the gift of unconditional forgiveness and support. 

Consciously, I did all of this to try and become someone I thought men would like. But in retrospect, trying to become something for someone else was just the catalyst for a much bigger spiritual awakening. 

Ultimately, what I have learned is that there is always an energetic balancing act in relationships because polarity is a universal law. 

Today I am single. I have experienced really fun and fulfilling relationships with good communication. I have learned to set boundaries. I have moved through break-ups respectfully without losing myself or my self-esteem. I have learned to self-reflect and integrate lessons without punishing myself for not knowing what I didn’t know. I have had the experience of falling in love with someone who truly meets me halfway.

This work helped me come home to myself. And in turn, I have received the gifts connection and security in all my relationships.

Xoxo, Lucy